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A Note When Special Days Don't Feel Special

A note of encouragement for when special days don't feel special...

Not every day has to be special; and not every special day has to be over-the-top memorable. This is a reminder I needed myself today, so decided to type it up just in case you also need to be reminded. Feel free to insert your own name if it fits, or not. It's up to you.

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Trina, on this first day of the kids' winter break and the day before Christmas Eve, I give you permission to have an "off" day. To not feel like doing all the things or creating all the special.

Sure, you could have had something planned today. I mean, deep down you probably knew togetherness and laziness wouldn't be enough of an agenda when the kids all woke up at 6:30 in the morning needing something to do. You're not to fault for being hopeful.

And those looming clouds and that ongoing rain? You're not in charge of that. Sure, you live in Nebraska and if anything should be keeping your kids hulled up inside it should be sleet or ice or bitter coldness. It's not your fault that this year, instead of a winter wonderland you're looking out at cold gloomy wetness.

Also, that headache? Not your fault either. (Ah hem, thanks monthly cycle.) Sometimes your body is the boss of you. The best you can do at that point is turn on The Santa Claus for the kids and hope that some of that holiday special-ness will pour out of the TV screen as you rest your head on the couch pillow.

It is not your job to make every moment of your children's young lives magical. Even through the holidays. You do your best to insert some fun traditions and be intentional about moments that matter. The rest of it? Let it go. Let them learn to use their imaginations and see the magic of what happens when they witness their own boredom blossom.

Listen to them downstairs while their baby brother is napping upstairs: They're playing pretend. As short as it may last, that is the magic of childhood, and you had nothing to do with it. Actually, yes, you did. You gave them space to be kids while you wait for the Tylenol to kick in. Good on you.

Now, I know you already know you didn't need to be scrolling through Instagram when you were feeling your lowest. When you already felt like you were failing your kids for not having more energy today or not planning all the baking and holiday fun you know think you "should" be doing with them.

You didn't need to see everyone else's over-the-top special moments from this season. Not on this day when you needed more than anything to be assured that normal and mundane is okay and not going to scar your kids. That as long as everyone is taken care of and loved and there's perhaps some sweet holiday melodies flowing from Pandora (because there is), that you're doing enough.

Relax. Today is special simply because it exists by no power of your own, and you and your people exist in it together, also by no power of your own. You feed them and bathe them and keep showing up for them and that's great. But we all know this one chance at precious life is by God's goodness and His breath and power moving in and through you and your home and your family.

So just chill when you start feeling like you're failing everyone, or like you're personally ruining this holiday for everyone. They're still breathing and the world's still spinning.

Today, that's special enough.

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Creating a Meaningful and Simple Christmas

Christmas isn't about doing All The Things. Instead, choose the one, two, or three that are meaningful to you and your family and make space to do those. Then, give yourself permission to let go of the rest acknowledging that they may be good ideas, even great ideas, for someone else, but not for you. The end result will be a focused, even relaxed (can you imagine?!), Christmas season.

A little holiday confession: I don't love Christmas. I love Jesus and the story of Jesus' birth. I also love twinkling lights, peppy holiday tunes, peppermint drinks, and mistletoe.

All of the expectations, though? It's a little much for this simple-loving needing girl. Decorations and 25-days of countdown fun and homemade cookies and presents (multiple) for even just our family and every group everywhere (school, work, church, friends, other friends, family) feeling like they need their own exchange or drive. Have I mentioned the clutter? The excess of everything and that our already cozy living room has no space with our tree.

Okay, now I'm just going into an all-out rant. Which isn't the point.

The point is that it takes a little extra intention to simplify it all and make it meaningful. And not meaningful by saying yes to all of the good ideas that everyone else is doing.

Christmas isn't about doing All The Things. Instead, I'm learning to choose the one, two, or three that are meaningful to me and my family and make space to do those. Which can be hard, because what I want/need this season is a little different than what my family wants/needs. On the plus side, they're getting older and can help take over some of the added responsibilities. (See "decorations" below. The kids decorate the tree all by themselves now!)

Then, I'm giving myself permission to let go of the rest acknowledging that they may be good ideas, even great ideas, for someone else, but not for me. The end result will be a focused, even relaxed (can you imagine?!), Christmas season.

I was thinking of how I might encourage you in a simple and intentional holiday season, then realized I've already shared my holiday posts over the years. So instead of adding more, for now, I'm simply gathering all that I have on the topic in one spot (this post), along with short descriptions of how we approach the Christmas festivities and ideas we use to keep it simple and meaningful in our own way.


Holiday Cards

We've done our holiday cards a variety of ways over the last few years. Most often we take a quick family snapshot, I edit it (for free) in PicMonkey, then post it online after mailing (or emailing) it to family and friends. I keep a pretty short list of who we send to, focusing on parents, grandparents, and siblings (every now and then a few friends make the list). And instead of a long holiday letter (since most people keep in touch with us online), I write a note about how we're thankful they're in our lives.

More on holiday cards:
Simplifying Holiday Cards + 4 Free Overlays
DIY Christmas Cards


Presents

I am not a great gift-giver, so this tradition stresses me out. However, I love people that this is their love language, so I've learned to not totally do away with it. Tight finances for all of our Christmases has made it somewhat easy to say we are simply doing presents within our own family. For the times that we are together with siblings and cousins, it's been fun to do a game gift exchange, a favorite-things gift exchange, or an experiences gift exchange which was my favorite.

For our kids, we give 3 gifts each: something to read, something to wear, and something fun/to play with. We also give them each new pajamas that they open and can wear Christmas Eve night while they sleep by the lit Christmas tree. We fill their stockings with a small simple toy and snacks that they get to open and eat/play with when they wake up Christmas morning which buys my husband and I a little extra rest-time.

More on gift-giving:
Simplifying Gifts
Giving When You Have Nothing to Give


Decorations

We have an artifical tree we put up every year, along with stockings, the Willow Creek Nativity, a wreath on the front door, a simple mistletoe ball, stockings, and some years our Advent envelopes. The decorations, including the tree and nativity, all fits in 3 tubs which helps us keep a limit on it all. Last year and this year we let the kids decorate the tree all by themselves (we helped set it up and string the lights). I love its imperfect charm. And that I didn't have to do as much :)

More on decorating:
Homemade Mini Christmas Tree
Small Space Tree Ideas


Advent

We simply countdown the 25 days to Christmas. There are some great devotional readings, activity ideas, and so much more revolving around Advent. We keep it simple with reading texts and stories related to Jesus' birth from books we already have. We also made a simple envelope countdown that included activities our first year, but we haven't done the daily activities since.

More on Advent:
49 Advent Calendar Ideas
Our Envelope Advent Calendar
Joy to the World, He is Coming Again!


Activities

Some of our favorite holiday activities are those that take the least planning and preparation. We drive through neighborhoods anytime after dark to look at lights, watch our favorite Christmas movies on the weekends, enjoy peppermint cookies or cocoa, light peppermint candles or diffuse peppermint essential oil, and listen to Pandora holiday stations like Pentatonix or Rockin' Around the Christmas Tree or Michael Buble.

I mentioned in "presents" above that we've done an experience gift-exchange with siblings, cousins, parents, which is fun. We played a fun new game, did 4-minute exercise as a group, drank wassail, and more. Last year, per my daughter's request, we all (adults included) had a snowflake making contest which was lots of fun.

More on Activities:
Simple Holiday Date Night
100 Acts of Kindness


Rather than adding to your already overflowing pool of ideas, I hope you feel empowered to keep your Christmas simple and meaningful your way.

Wishing you a simply merry Christmas!


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Joy to the World, He is Coming Again!

Joy to the World, the Lord Is Coming Again!
God sent me a bandaid once. That's kind of a bold statement, I know. But as far as I can tell, it's true. I've been thinking about it this Christmas season, because it embedded hope in me, much like Christ's birth does. I've shared this story many times over the last 15 years since it happened. I'll tell it again to explain "the meaning of Christmas."

I was a sophomore in high school having a tough day like some teenagers do. Honestly those complaints (failing history test, fighting with boyfriend) matter 0% today, but they felt pretty big back then.

I started the day praying, "Lord, show me You care." That was all I could squeeze out of my heart.

I also wanted a bandaid. A small token that everything was going to be alright. Like the several years prior when a kiss and blow on my skinned knee from Mom assured me I would be just fine. I wanted to know I'd be just fine, and a bandaid in my metaphorical mind was that assurance.

I couldn't find a bandaid, so I simply went on with my day.

Later in the afternoon, after the failed history test and nothing fixed with the boyfriend, I returned to my room for a nap. Just inside my door was a package. The return address said "Ellie Phunt" (a funny name joked about by an acquaintance) and the box was full of oddity: Pink toe socks, spider rings, travel shampoo, confetti, candy, and more.

I laughed feeling a little lighter that perhaps God had heard and answered my prayer. Then, I read and reread the PS at the bottom of the card.

"PS, I hope you like the bandaid."

Sure enough, there at the bottom of that box of oddity was a single circle bandaid. God answered my prayer to show me He cared, and He did it with precision and flair.

I still get choked up sharing it today, all these years later. God (or that acquaintance) hasn't sent me a bandaid since, but He doesn't have to. An answered prayer like that, a miracle when I needed it most, was enough to embed His hope in me.

And that's a little piece of what I feel Christmas is about.

It's mostly celebrating the birth of our Savior who brought the humbling gift of complete salvation for those who believe. (Read the first 10 chapters of Hebrews for more about what His sacrifice accomplished that the Old Testament Levitical laws simply couldn't.)

But it's also a hope fulfilled to embed hope for what's to come. Because Jesus really lived like the Old Testament promised, then I can believe that He is really coming again for the best gift of all--eternity with Him like the New Testament promises.

That's on my heart and mind going into this Christmas season. Joy to the world, for the Lord has come! Also, joy to the world for the Lord IS coming again!

Meaning of Christmas - Joy to the World!

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100 Not-So-Random Acts of Kindness

100 Not-So-Random Acts of Kindness
For the last few years we've slowly gotten more intentional about the holidays. That's included a simple Advent calendar, simple decor, doing 3 simple gifts each (something to read, something to wear, and something fun/to play with), and shutting down to be with those we love. This year I wanted to keep intentional Christmas going after Thanksgiving, as it should be. Then we got Target's toy catalog in the mail and saw the cutest Advent calendar at Trader Joe's, and I realized intentions needed to be set now before ads and product placement took us over.

My sister-in-law and I decided we'd like to do an Acts of Kindness advent calendar with our kids to focus on giving and serving this season. I'll likely use these >> envelopes I made a couple years ago, and put a simple act of kindness or two in each one. The kids want to start the countdown now. We're resisting the urge, and instead focusing on thankfulness now. But this is a good time for us to start brainstorming acts of kindness we could do.

Also, November 13 is World Kindness Day, so a good time to even try a few ideas out!

I wanted to keep these ideas easy and free (or at least cheap). Some of them might cost a little more in time or money, some are more for kids, some are more for adults, and some take some planning ahead. You'll find some of your typical "random acts of kindness," and others are more intentional acts to build community and reach out to others in a deeply meaningful way. Hopefully there's an idea, or a few, you can use!

1. Do/help with a chore that's usually someone else's responsibility.
2. Read to someone.
3. Open/hold the door for others throughout the day.
4. Let someone go ahead of you in line.
5. Send a card in the mail.
6. Bake something and share it with the neighbor.
7. Invite someone over and share a drink or snack or meal.
8. Create winter care kits for homeless to keep handy in the car.
9. Get a couple $10 coupons for a food place to keep on hand for people in need.
10. Find a homeless person and give them warm socks, a food gift card, or a care kit.
11. Take a meal to someone going through a difficult time.
12. Babysit for free so the parents can get a break or go on a date.
13. Rake someone else's yard--or shovel or mow or weed.
14. Pay for the person behind you in the fast food drive thru.
15. Write encouraging words to people on Instagram or Facebook.
16. Leave a card, picture, or small gift in a public place (park bench, bathroom counter, etc.).
17. Try to compliment or praise whoever you talk to throughout the day.
18. Take someone flowers or a plant, or leave them on their porch.
19. Collect food or other needs for a local shelter.
20. Write thank you notes to people who have made an impact in your life.
21. Take donuts or another treat to share with coworkers or classmates.
22. Sit with someone who is alone and start a conversation.
23. Experience something with someone you care about--visit a museum, or go to the zoo.
24. Invite someone to coffee and pay for their drink. Or deliver it to them.
25. Write a note and put it where someone doesn't expect--lunch box, desk drawer, etc.
26. Call and talk to someone who you know would enjoy a phone call.
27. Buy a gift for a child in need.
28. Give books you've read to people you think might enjoy them.
29. Try to only say positive things all day.
30. Smile and say hello to everyone you pass.
31. Talk with a friend, ask questions, and listen intently.
32. Be kind to yourself. Take a break, destress, think positive thoughts.
33. Volunteer your talents or services to help someone--take photos, write, design, organize, whatever, just do it for free.
34. Remember someone who has shared a dream or goal with you, and follow up and encourage them in it.
35. Smile and wave from the car as you pass people.
36. Be kind to the earth by buying less, reusing more, and recycling.
37. Promote a friend's blog or small business to people you think might be interested or on your Facebook.
38. Send an email to a writer you enjoy and share your appreciation.
39. Thank a nurse, teacher, police officer, mail man, or other service person with a card, a handshake, or a treat.
40. Pick up trash in your community, or a neglected place nearby.
41. Help someone else be kind. Offer to deliver their gift or baked goods, or contribute to their act of kindness somehow.
42. Hand out balloons or flowers or treats to people on the street.
43. Rub a family members back or neck or feet.
44. Put a kind phrase or encouraging message on your car, your desk, front door, or somewhere else people will see it throughout the day.
45. Spend a day "in real life." Try to stay off your phone and off your computer whenever possible and be attentive to life happening all around.
46. Carry quarters or dollar bills and leave them in tip or donation jars you usually avoid.
47. Tell someone you don't know they're doing a good job--a parent, store clerk, doctor, etc.
48. Remember someone you've said "we should hang out" to, then make it happen.
49. Spend most of the day listening.
50. Pass your magazine on or leave it in public for someone else to read.
51. List items you're getting rid of for free on Craigslist.
52. Attend an event a friend is planning.
53. Donate old eyeglasses.
54. Volunteer during activity time in a local nursing home--play games, sing songs, or deliver kids' artwork.
55. Make a list of what you love about someone and share it with them.
56. Find natural ways to reach out and touch others--hug, shake hands, pat on the back, high five.
57. Ask someone to share what they're thankful for, current blessings, or answers to prayer.
58. Clean up after yourself. At the restaurant, at work or school, in your room.
59. Share a positive post or photo or video online.
60. Clean out your closet and pass good quality stuff on to friends or donate, and tie up rags or unwearable items and label "recycle" and drop off at Goodwill.
61. Clean out the kids toys. Choose some to pass on to others.
62. Visit/tour a local shelter and find ways your family or small group can help by donating items or volunteering time.
63. Send holiday cards that focus on others--showing interest in their lives and appreciation for their presence in yours.
64. Share jokes throughout the day.
65. Go geocaching and leave a fun surprise for the next person.
66. Leave heads up pennies on sidewalks.
67. Record a message and text or email it to a faraway friend or family member.
68. Help raise money for a cause you care about, or at least raise awareness.
69. Work together on a meal and cleaning up after it.
70. Invite someone into the conversation or to sit at your table.
71. Sponsor a child in another part of the world--learn about their needs and culture.
72. Learn about homelessness and foster care, etc. in your hometown and choose one way to donate or volunteer--through a shelter or backpack program or supporting a foster family.
73. Offer to help a friend organize or simplify--a second opinion and a cheerleader can go a long way.
74. Ask someone else what they want for Christmas.
75. Ask others their favorite holiday memories or favorite seasonal pleasantries.
76. Ask someone to tell you their story--how they moved to town, a life-changing moment, a miracle they've experienced.
77. Ask for help--don't wait for others to volunteer and definitely don't brush them off. Most tasks are better done together.
78. Host a shower, party, or small group in your home.
79. Walk through the neighborhood and say hi or leave treats on people's doors.
80. Ask your pastor or kids' teacher or other community leader how they need help or support.
81. Teach someone something--lead a class at the community center, tutor someone, or offer to help someone starting a hobby or activity you already know well.
82. Send a reverse Christmas wish list. Write all the things you hope or wish for someone else, and send it to them.
83. Take a project on with someone--help with a DIY or home project.
84. Dance with your kids or spouse or roommate.
85. Exercise with someone.
86. Play a game with someone.
87. Make something and give it away--a painting, a quilt, a scarf.
88. Share a fun, funny, or complimenting memory with an old friend.
89. Plan date night or a family fun day.
90. Have a girls' night and invite someone new.
91. Fill out a suggestion card and give compliments.
92. Return something borrowed with something extra (a movie with popcorn, a book with a bookmark, a shirt with a scarf).
93. Get some rest and drink water--basic self-care makes us all a little kinder ;)
94. Encourage someone going through something you've already been through.
95. Think before you speak or comment online.
96. Tell someone you missed them when they don't show up at a usual place.
97. Take a crazy selfie and text it to a friend.
98. Tell someone how you see you Jesus in them or working in their life.
99. Quickly look up from the computer, tv, or phone when someone is talking to you.
100. Consider when someone's kindness meant something to you, then pay it forward.

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Giving When You Have Nothing to Give

Approach the giving season with giving in a powerful Jesus-filled way.

Who wants to join me going into this giving season... giving?

I've been toying with the idea of a toy-less Christmas. Essentially replacing indulging my privileged children with giving to underprivileged children. I wouldn't do this without their involvement. I don't want them to look back on this time with longing for things. That would certainly be contradictory to the whole point.

And the point is giving. And teaching that lifestyle to my children.


I'm not sure I can pinpoint when I learned to give. Many times I think I'm still in the trenches learning this essential lifestyle. Sure, I'm on board with giving. But usually after I get. Usually after we're blessed with an income, then we'll give tithe. If we can cover our needs and a couple wants, then we'll donate to a charity. After we receive our tax refund each spring, then we sponsor a little girl in India named Poojitha.

Sadly, we usually only give after we receive.


Maybe that pattern is not entirely a bad thing. The only way we're able to give anything of importance is by receiving the gift of Jesus Christ. The problem comes when we make our giving contingent on material gains. Jesus was not and is not material, so limiting our giving by what we can materially manage is limiting His power to work in our lives.

In Love Skip Jump Shelene Bryan says, "I believe too many Christians have been lulled, pacified, and numbed into the cradle of the modern 'easy life.' The effect of this has been that we don't need God. We don't really need Him to accomplish what we are doing."

That's certainly my problem. Lately we give 10% and not much more, because we don't have much more. We give through ourselves, not Jesus. We live on our limited power and possessions, not His power and provisions from the stores of His entire Kingdom. The result is that we take for ourselves first, and then we don't usually have anything leftover to give to others.

Many times over God has worked miracles with our finances. Lately, I've come to expect starting the month with an unbalanced budget. Unbalanced in the negatives, just to clarify. By the end of the month, He has worked miracles with our budget. Not always in visible ways, either. Even though I closely monitor our budget, I'm not usually able to pinpoint how we pay all our bills, buy our normal amounts of food, and end the month with a balanced budget. But it happens and I know it's by the power of Jesus and His provisions.

It's incredible!

However, I don't believe Jesus blesses us simply for us to be blessed.


Is our balanced budget all He's after? Not really. If that were the case, then He's just buying us time until the new year when our monthly medical bills practically disappear along with His power. I believe He's doing more than just buying us time, because this story isn't really about us, it's about Him. Our budget miracles are for His glory.

And I think He really gets the glory when we give despite having nothing to give.


Giving from Him, not from ourselves.

This weekend a group of us discussed the "Profile of the Lukewarm" from the book Crazy Love. In this chapter, Francis Chan describes what lukewarm so-called Christians might do or what their lives might look like. Here are bits from 7 of the 18 statements that stuck out to me in regards to my sad giving habits.

Lukewarm people...


  • ...give money to charity and to the church if they have a little extra and it is easy and safe to give. (1 Chron. 21:24, Luke 21:1-4)
  • ...give Jesus only a section of their time, money, and thoughts. (Luke 9:57-62)
  • ...love others, but typically focus on those who love them in return. (Luke 14:12-14)
  • ...will serve God and others, but have limits to how far they will go. (Luke 18:21-25)
  • ...are thankful for their luxuries and rarely consider trying to give as much as possible to the poor. (Matt. 25:34, 40; Isa. 58:6-7)
  • ...give/do whatever is necessary to keep from feeling too guilty. (1 Chron. 29:14; Matt. 13:44-46)
  • ...structure their lives to not have to trust God. (Luke 12:16-21; Heb. 11)

This sort of thinking is natural to most of us and even rationalized. The truth of Jesus' call has certainly made me fidget. What about our bills and caring for our children? God doesn't really want me to be irresponsible with my finances, right?

He never called us to be irresponsible, but certainly made it clear we need to not fear and instead trust Him. And that is the goal this giving season and beyond.

Fear and trust Him. With our finances and with our giving.


The first time December was more about giving than what I'd receive for Christmas, was when I was around 10. There were 3 siblings my age and younger that sometimes showed up to church. The youngest not as much, because his heart condition often landed him in the hospital. It was clear that bathing was not a routine occurrence for them. And their toes often peeked through tattered shoes.

The time I knew something needed to be done was when one of the girls came to church during a Midwest winter with no coat and, after accidentally exposing herself, apparently no undergarments. I went home that day and asked my mom if I could give the girl my coat (I had recently upgraded to a Chiefs starter jacket handed down from my brother), and if we could buy them new socks and underwear.

She went with it and got other family involved too. By the time we visited their humble rundown home, we had a good-sized box for each child with coats, packages of undergarments, and even some toys. There was also a box of fresh citrus and other foods for the parents. The kids excitedly opened their packages as the parents looked on and smiled. They were hard to understand when they spoke even though their first language was English, but their gratitude was clear without words.

That is such a good memory to me, but I'm sad that so far it's only a memory.


It hasn't become habit. My own kids haven't experienced this sort of giving. Christmases haven't been more about others and their needs than it has been about us and our wants. Yet.

There is still time to change. And this season is as good a time as any.


I've got to be honest and tell you I don't exactly know where to start. I have a vision of where I want my life and our family to be in terms of giving, but the path there is a little unclear.

Here are some ideas I'm considering to take those first steps in giving...


1 | Donate on #GivingTuesday.

This is a good follow-up to the "gimmes" of Black Friday and Cyber Monday; a reminder and opportunity to give. Learn more about Giving Tuesday >> here. We'll donate to a favorite charity (like Tiny Hands International) or a local shelter and make this season about more than ourselves.

2 | Limit internal giving.

For the last couple years we've given the kids something to wear, something to read, and something to play with. Our budget for this is super low, and what we get usually fits pretty close to the "need" category. This year I'm wondering if we can skip the "something to play with" for a better 'cause like #3 below.

3 | Increase external giving.

I'd like the kids to choose an underprivileged child of the same gender to buy a present for. We don't really have extra funds for this, so I feel this is more a priority than buying for ourselves (see #2 above). There are usually trees around town that have papers with a child's info and wish list. Shelters and such likely have a wish list, too.

4 | Buy from companies that give.

Jen Hatmaker recently shared a list of such places. For instance, we buy our glasses from Warby Parker because they're designer quality for only $95 total, but they also donate a pair for each pair they sell. Check out Jen's list >> here for other companies that give back.

5 | Support fundraisers for a good cause.

My daughter's first grade class is selling Krispy Kreme donuts to buy presents for children at our local shelter. We will definitely be buying a dozen (or two ;) of donuts to share with others, and help support this good cause.

6 | Donate all money earned December 1-25.

We could certainly use the little bit of money earned here. For 25 days, however, we're going beyond the usual small giving and dedicating all of those earnings to the lives of others. For any sales of Simplicity vs., or any commissions earned from Warber Parker and PicMonkey affiliate links these 25 days, 100% of proceeds will go to Tiny Hands International. They rescue girls in danger of being trafficked in Nepal and surrounding areas. I wear my One Girl bracelet often, and appreciate the reminder to take these serious scenarios and the name of a specific girl to Jesus in prayer.


There is so much more that could be done, and so much more I'd like to do. This is a small start that I hope ripples into a year-round giving habit. Most of all, I hope to pass on a heritage of selfless giving to my children.

Not as the world gives, but as only Jesus can give through us.



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Friday Update | Living Simply in November

an update on living simply where we are

Here are some things I've been wearing, reading, buying, ditching, and creating this month. Be sure to check out #5 and sign-up below to receive it free ;)


1 | WEARING...


Jeggings. Several years ago I made fun of these As Seen On TV "pajama jeans." Now, I'm practically living in the No nonsense brand I got from Wal-mart last month. They're super thick, fit inside my boots, have real pockets, and mold to my ever-changing postpartum body. Maybe I'll regret this fashion trend when I look back on it in a few years. For now, I'm just thankful to afford something warm that fits.

Warby Parker. Still loving my Sims frames in striped sassafras. My main man is choosing his pair, and I'm feeling the itch to try a new frame :)

Leg Warmers. Another fashion trend I quietly swore I'd never return to, but am loving. I hate socks, even in winter and instead use wool inserts in the bottom of my boots. Leg warmers don't bother my toes, keep me surprisingly warm, and add a cute accent peeking out of the top of my boots.


2 | READING...


Love Skip Jump by Shelene Bryan. My first post on this blog was titled "Journey to Yes." And this book about "living the adventure of yes" really brings it all around full circle for me. This book is about loving God and others, skipping a luxury (a.k.a. living simply) on behalf of someone else, and jumping in to a life with/for God and His Kingdom. That's a way of living I'm on board with!

Authentic Hospitality by Alysa Passage. So perfect for the holiday season. Alysa is a fellowship genius and really helps bring us back to the heart of hosting with lots of practical ideas to maneuver around the kitchen with ease.

Crazy Love by Francis Chan. This is a second read-through for me. A small group of us is reading a chapter each week for Sabbath School. We take turns reading, then stop and discuss whenever we feel so moved. This feels like a step forward after my "Quitting Church" post.

Simplicity vs. by Yours Truly. I know, a little strange that I'd read my own book. I'm actually currently in the middle of the workbook and improving our home post-move and pre-holidays. Slow progress built on the work I've done in our home before is really bringing it all together.

Do Nice. Be Kind. Spread Happy. by Bernadette Russell. This is one we're reading with the kids a little each evening. November is kindness month and this book is full of fun ideas for "ninja niceness." I also bought several other awesome books that I can't wait to give the kids for their birthdays and Christmas! (All within 2 weeks of each other :)


3 | BUYING...


IKEA home goods. It's one of my favorite sources for home ideas with lots of affordable items to satisfy my wish list. We visited one that opened near our friends a couple hours away, and I was thrilled to make a post-birthday stop last weekend. Yellow pillow covers for our living room, a soap dispenser for the kitchen, outdoor welcome mats for the front and back doors, woven cubes for our bookshelf, and a table desk to start creating a little artist nook in Brylee's room. All of it, of course, was first written on the Simplicity vs. Home Wish List to be sure I needed it ;)

Jamberry nail wraps. They're super cute, look neater than my sloppy nail polish, and last longer too. They take a little longer to apply, but not unreasonable. And I can stop in the middle if I need to attend to a crying baby, which I simply can't do with nail polish. I am pleased.


4 | DITCHING...


Complicated Cooking. I've never been much of a cook, but I was definitely more into it when I had only one child and nothin' but time. (I also used to clean a little deeper each week back in those days.) Lately, I'm sticking with a simple weekly meal-plan and I feel we're all better for it.

Over-Blogging. Waking up with baby every couple hours at night and limited writing time means I'm transitioning back into less posting. You can count on a minimum of end-of-the-month updates on the blog (last Friday of the month), monthly e-mails (first Wednesday of the month, sign-up below), and updates on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter throughout the week (follow at bottom of post). Plus another product coming your way in December; keep reading for more info.


5 | CREATING...


Epic Beginner + 2015 Calendar Pack. Most of us are beginners in something we care about. Not just average beginners—epic beginners. Because we sort of learn to own it. To get good at it. The trying and starting. The failing and good-enough succeeding. The eternal process of it all.

And I hope it never changes.

Through this process of embracing epic beginnings we learn so much... we are humbled... we are free to experience more and try new things... and we even enjoy more success when our beginnings are epic.

I'm making a guided journal and 2015 calendar pack for all of us epic beginners. To help us:
» get past our excuses and fears,
» just start already,
» overcome our challenges,
» fail with grace,
» acknowledge our successes, and
» find rest.

Update: Find Epic Beginner >> here.

Simplifying Holiday Cards (and 4 Free Overlays)

simplifying holiday cards
Don't holiday cards just feel like one more obligation getting in the way of a peace-filled holiday season? I can't be the only that feels felt that way. Until a couple years ago, that's exactly what I thought about holiday cards.

Then, I wrote this >> post on how to make your own holiday cards and sent out some of our first. I may have been converted. Here are some ideas to keep it simple with more joy and less obligation...

1 | Skip the holiday photo shoot.

Who says you need a holiday photo shoot, anyway? Seriously, I'm sure you've taken at least one snapshot of your family this year. Cut the photo shoot chaos just this once (save it for the warmer weather), and use a photo you already have. It may not be perfect and it may not be the most up-to-date (that's what Facebook is for, right?). It can still be edited into a fun representation of your family. Or, skip the photo altogether and just buy some adorable cards in Target's $1 section.

2 | Less you, more them.

The art of the yearly holiday-time update letter is being replaced with online year-round in-the-moment updates. I'm actually thankful for that. Now, instead of the awkward "pay attention to us" letter, the holiday card can simply be "we are thankful for you." On the back of the photo or in the card, write a more specific reason you're thankful or a specific reason you cherish the people you're sending it to.

3 | Holiday your way.

Decorative tape on the photo, card, or envelope; a cute card with your photo inside; an e-version instead of mailed; a handwritten Bible text; fun colorful pens; stickers and artwork by the kids... The ways to personalize are endless. Don't worry about Pinterest-ing this one. Just go with what you like and what comes natural to you. Giving a little piece of yourself is as simple and special as it gets.

Simple Gifts

Simplifying Gifts

It's getting close to that time that everyone starts thinking about gift-giving and what to buy other's for the holidays, or what to say we want if asked. This season gets even more complicated with loved ones birthdays around the holidays (eh hem, two of our kiddos). Gifts are still relevant, even for those trying to live more simply. Here are a couple simple things to keep in mind about gifts.

1. Be in tune.
We could all be a little more transparent about what we want and need and make this gift-giving thing a little easier. When buying for others, listen to what they talk about, or look at their Pinterest boards if they have them. There's likely something they've got their eye on and haven't even thought to ask for it. If you know people will be buying for you, speak up or make a board of the smaller items on your wish-, want-, need-, or use-frequently lists.

2. Think outside of the brand-new box.
Whatever can be experienced, used up, read, homemade, secondhand, fair trade, or raise funds for a good cause—even better. There are plenty of nice gifts to be found in these categories, and don't be afraid to suggest them to others if they ask.

3. Give, receive, and detach.
There is a good possibility that gifts will lose their appeal, become outdated, or no longer fit with the receiver's wants or needs. Don't put guilt on anyone to forever keep a gift. And remove that guilt from yourself if a gift you received is no longer wanted, needed, or loved.


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more simple holidays:

small space tree ideas
diy mini christmas tree
advent calendar round-up
simple envelope advent
free holiday card overlays


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Culture vs. Christianity | lent for the everyday christian

Will we let the Father prune us? Will we follow Jesus into the wilderness? Will we give up those things we hold tight so we can focus on God?
Prune: pro͞on/ v. Trim (a tree, shrub, or brush) by cutting away dead or overgrown branches or stems, especially to increase fruitfulness and growth.
I recently shared that fasting--whether it be from food, a hobby, a tradition, technology, or any number of possibilities--can help make us more open for, available to, and aware of God speaking into our life.

Now, it seems to be coming full circle with these 40 days leading up to Easter--the 40 days traditionally called "Lent" by some Christians. But let's not get hung up on the terminology and miss the point of this, or any, fasting.

When Jesus said that He is the vine and we are the branches, He also told about the Father--the vinedresser--who cuts away the pieces of our lives that are dead or overgrown. He does this so that we will be fruitful and grow. (Jn. 15:1-17)

When we're talking vines and branches, this all sounds fine and good. But when we start talking about our lives, it gets a little more personal. What are the pieces He considers dead or overgrown? What is He trimming away? Will it be painful? Will we have to let go?

In practice, maybe pruning looks a little like when Jesus told the rich young ruler that he needed to sell all he had. The young man walked away sad, because he loved his possessions more. His refusal to be pruned caused him to be cut away. (Lk. 18:18-30)

That's painful. We don't like this "pruning" business because it's a difficult version of Christianity to follow.

In The Irresistible Revolution, Shane Claiborne addresses our culture's temptation to downplay the cost of discipleship. Shane describes it this way:
With the most sincere hearts, we do not want to see anyone walk away from Jesus because of the discomfort of the cross, so we clip the claws on the Lion a little, we clean-up a bit the bloody Passion we are called to follow. ...And yet Jesus lets him walk away. (p. 104)
This makes me wonder what price of following Christ I am choosing to ignore.

A 35-day devotional I'm reading (the "Soul Detox" reading plan in the YouVersion Bible app) is leading me to think deeper about the toxins I allow into my life.

Toxic influences (especially culturally acceptable ones)...
... halt my mind from being transformed or renewed;
... make me think more highly of myself than I ought;
... keep me from feeling part of the team or connected to the body of Christ;
... hinder me from fully using my God-given gifts;
... make me love in hypocrisy (saying but not doing);
... lose my fervent spirit to serve the Lord;
... frustrate me in tribulation, cause me to lose hope and give up on prayer;
... make me wise in my own opinion; and
... overcome me with evil.

When the Father prunes the branch, He leads us to get rid of our "culturally acceptable" toxic influences. Those things that hinder Romans 12:1-21 from being true for us (see list above).

He cleanses the filthiness from our lives. (2 Cor. 7:1)

Shane goes on to say...
We can admire and worship Jesus without doing what he did. We can applaud what he preached and stood for without caring about the same things. We can adore his cross without taking up ours. (p. 113)
The question is: Will we let the Father prune us? Will we follow Jesus into the wilderness? Will we give up those things we hold tight so we can focus on God?

I feel like in my current journey, I'm a poor young peasant coming to Jesus with all sorts of distractions saying, "I want to follow You. How do I do that? Tell me, and I will do it. Anything."

I feel Him responding with the specifics of my life: The technology and television and daily distractions.

The resistance I feel in response... if I allow it to be my final answer, then it's over. Devastating doesn't even begin to describe it.

And so, resistance can't--it won't--be my final answer.

I am following Jesus' call to give up a distraction I sadly have held dear. A 40-day fast, or Lent if you're comfortable with that, to hear Jesus over some of the cultural toxins so normal in my life. I'll most likely share sometime in the process or at the end--because that's what happens when I feel God moving and speaking in my life.

In the meantime, I hope you'll consider asking God if He's leading you in a fast. Maybe giving up something for a day, a week, a Lent, a lifetime? I'll venture to guess His answer is yes, that is just where He is leading you.
By this My Father is glorified, that you bear much fruit; so you will be My disciples. | John 15:8

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also read:
On Growth // the old stuff must die to make room for the new
40 Days without TV
Courageous at Home
Less Technology, More Life
Taking a Break from Social Media
Everything We Do

Wassail | russian tea mix to revive your winter

Wassail // sugary russian tea recipe

What peppermint is to the senses for the Christmas season, orange clove is to the senses for a cold winter. It's part refreshing, part soothing, and 100% warming!

This recipe (I've heard it called both wassail and Russian tea) is the sugary version that I remember as a child. There are other versions made with tea and juices and real whole cloves. This is just closest to the one I drank as a kid. Not healthy in any way, but still a fun treat.

It's an easy mix that can last the season with plenty to share. Just a tablespoon mix to 6-8 ounces hot water, and sip away!

Wassail | Russian Tea Mix


2 cups Tang or instant orange drink mix
1/3 cup lemonade mix
3/4 cup instant tea
2 cups sugar
2 tsp cinnamon
1 tsp ground cloves

Combine ingredients in a medium mixing bowl. Move to airtight container for safe storage throughout the winter. Also packages nicely in small jars or clear envelopes as a special gift.

Combine 1 TBSP powdered mixture into 6-8 oz. hot water.

single-serve wassail (russian tea) mix


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also see:

Beginner DIY Christmas Cards with PicMonkey

diy picmonkey holiday cards
* PicMonkey affiliate links used in this post. See full note below.

We've never sent holiday cards as a family. I have good intentions, but often get overwhelmed, procrastinate,  then decide not to "waste" money on such a non-green endeavor. When PicMonkey added their winter features, I knew I wanted to holiday-ify some photos, at least to share with family and friends electronically. And maybe even send a few hard copies to some special people.

Problem is: I'm not a designer. Even though all the resources are there (still for free! see update on Royale here) on PicMonkey, my mind goes blank and I can't even imagine what a simple holiday card looks like. Anyone there with me?

Homemade Mini Christmas Tree

small, homemade Christmas tree
Last year I rounded up a few minimal, small space Christmas tree ideas >> here. I came up with our own solution using a vase, greenery, and our star tree topper and shared it in a post about our simple decor >> here. This solution is our main "tree" again this year. This time I'm sharing details in case you're inspired to make your own.


supplies: vase, lit greenery, poinsettas, mini ornaments, rustric tree topper

Mini Christmas Tree Supplies:


1 | vase

Any large vase of any material will do. One slightly tiered will give more of a tree shape, but isn't necessary.

2 | lit greenery

The greenery doesn't have to be lit. That's what we had on hand, and it saves a step of adding lights.

3 | poinsettas

I got bundles of these at the dollar store.

4 | mini ornaments

The mini ornaments (bulbs and garland) are from IKEA. Of course.

5 | tree topper

Something that can easily set inside the top of the vase, or even on top of it.

how to make a mini christmas tree

1 | wrap greenery

The greenery is prone to slip a bit. This year I took care of that by adding a tad of duct tape near the base to keep it steady as I wrapped. Also be sure to keep the enough chord free to plug in nearby outlet if you're using lit greenery.

2 | add ornaments

Wrap garland, hang bulbs, and poke in flowers.

3 | top with star

Either set base inside vase, or some angels might fit over top of vase. Vase can be stuffed with cloth or other material to help steady topper.

4 | display tree

Choose a shelf or table top to display. This year I put it on a high shelf to keep away from the kids' little grubbers.

tabletop christmas tree with nativity
homemade minimalist christmas tree
small space christmas tree

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also see:
new? start here...
small space tree ideas
advent calendar round-up
holiday cards + free overlays
simple gifts
monthly dose of simple

Beginner Beans >> Elsewhere

The Thanksgiving holiday vacation was a great time to unplug. It apparently extended an extra week, but I'm back! And I returned to find Beginner Beans linked in a couple new, unexpected places. Check 'em out!

Anyone start an Advent Calendar yesterday? It's not too late to jump in! See this >> post with 24 Creative Advent Calendars to get inspired. Yours truly is listed as a source for more ideas.

Then, checkout these 10 Creative Date Night Ideas >> here. Anyone recognize the source for date nights at home?

More coming soon. I promise!

49 Advent Calendars | a round-up of diy tutorials + inspiration

round-up of 49 diy advent calendar ideas

My monthly resolution for December is to {finally} do an Advent Calendar. Getting inspired, choosing from the many brilliant ideas that have already been done, and finally putting it together takes time, so I'm getting a head start. (As in: I created this collection of ideas in October, but scheduled it to post in November so I wouldn't look too anxious for the holidays.)

More to come on whatever countdown we end up doing. In the meantime, get inspired!



advent calendar ideas and inspirations


advent calendar ideas


advent calendar ideas


creative ways to countdown to christmas


unique advent calendar ideas


fun ways to count down to christmas


advent calendar tutorials

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